The key to doing extraordinary work has nothing to do with the amount of work one can handle, it's the intention one brings to their work that makes the difference. Whether it happens fast or slow, how we do our work matters more than how much we do. And how we do our work is rooted completely in our ability to know and love who we really are.

How will we ever make our best contributions if we’re too busy adhering to rules and standards that don’t really matter? We’re free to do our best work when we give up the idea there was ever a correct way to approach our work or our lives. Peace and freedom come with the willingness to risk uncertainty and live differently.

How many times do you approach a challenge in life or work as if it's the first time anyone in the history of the world has ever dealt with that challenge? We waste so much time and energy inventing new problems for ourselves instead of realizing someone has been down this road before. When we navigate hard times or start something new we make real progress by seeing where the water is already flowing and jumping in that river.

What we're really afraid of has nothing to do with executing the task at hand. We’re actually afraid of claiming we can accomplish the work with excellence. We're afraid to go public with the belief we have what it takes - because what if we don't? What a fool we'll look like if we raise our hand or put our name on the list and proceed to blow it.

Do you ever find yourself wondering if you’re working hard enough? Do you worry that, to fully reach your potential, it’s going to cost you a meltdown in the process? It’s easy to fall prey to those mindsets - they’re everywhere. But I’ve discovered the real work has nothing to do with what's on our plate or our calendar or our life goals list - it has to do with where we find our identity.

I was once told my emotions were hindering my growth as a leader. After nearly a decade of trying to be someone other than myself it’s clear being an emotional person was never the issue. I now see it’s what I believe about my emotions and what I do with them that matters. Here are my reflections on that journey and a manifesto for those who feel deeply, and who deeply want to lead.

We have the ability to choose what we think and how we feel - but often it feels impossible to change the way we've always thought or felt. This is when we must remember our behaviors drive our beliefs. One small action at a time, we can change. We become who we practice being.

I love blogs. I write blogs. But if we’re not careful all these blogs will distract us from making our real contribution. At some point we must stop believing the next personal development article will finally reveal the secret to unlocking our potential and just get to work. So if you need a kick in the pants, give this a read. Otherwise - go do the things!

When we navigate our lives and our careers focused on ourselves we’ll never discover what we're looking for. By remembering our lives aren't about us we're able to find what we really desire. When we realize life is about others we're compelled to take action - and it is selfless actions that make up a wonderful life, not inwardly focused desires for control.

The most effective leaders are the most reflective leaders - yet many struggle to begin a reflective writing practice. Here are two techniques I use daily to help me learn from experiences, discover purpose, and continue to grow.  

I'm learning the path toward our highest quality work comes from the decision to realize our greatest gifts to the world often come easily. Our ability to remain focused on what matters and resist the temptation to find identity in busyness is the hard part. I See my recent TEDx talk about this idea!

Any moment we're able to gather people in a room is a gift. Unfortunately, most leaders and most organizations waste the opportunity on a daily basis and settle for the same kind of meetings, events, workshops, and conferences they've always had. What if you did it differently?

Perhaps some of the most important moments in our lives begin when we're in a situation feeling drawn to act or think how we've always acted or thought, and instead choose to whisper to ourselves, "But this time, I could do it differently..."

I can't help but wonder what might happen if each of us believed we belong a little more than we think we do. What if we all trusted that, based on our own life experience, we always have something valuable to offer?

I've never heard someone say their secret to leading a fulfilling life, creating meaningful relationships, and having a positive influence on others was caring too much about the right things.

The beauty of a magic trick lies not in the skill behind the illusion - or even the existence of magic itself. Real magic occurs when we decide to believe in something deeply, learn to do it well, then share it with others. 

Those who earn the responsibility of real influence choose to prioritize not themselves - but the other - in every interaction. We forget the power we have in every situation to give the gift of being seen to someone else.

Perhaps the quality of life isn't about one's external correctness or adherence to internal rules - perhaps the quality of our days is measured by the quality of our relationships. 

There are a half-dozen tabs open in my browser I believe will deliver answers, inspiration, or providence as I endeavor to do good work. It's endless. I've mistakenly chosen to believe that digesting the work of others directly translates to me doing better work. But we know this isn't true. 

The person we'll need to be at some point in the future is being calibrated now, in a way we're not yet meant to understand.